What is the Feminine?

Hello all,

My blog schedule has definitely been off kilter the past couple of weeks. I decided to change my blog schedule to Tuesdays and Fridays, and then I moved, auditioned for Dragons Den, ran an Open House for Healers, and did a healing circle all in one week. Nonetheless, I was super busy and I’m still recovering. But what I have for you is an article written by one of my friends, Faeri, on the Feminine. I thought it was timely to learn about the feminine, and hopefully the masculine this month as V-day is coming up. I do hope you enjoy this guest post.

What is the Feminine? 

We hear the word feminine thrown around a lot these days. Over the years it has accumulated much baggage and extra meaning behind it. I’m writing this to hopefully clear up some mis-conceptions around the word and shed some new light upon how we can connect with feminine energy.

Everything has either a positive or negative charge. In the smallest atom there is a charge. With this view, there is no negative association to words being either type of charge. As both types of energies are required to make the world function.  Neither is better than the other they’re both just the energies of life.  This is the framework that the feminine and the masculine exist within.

Feminine is creation, expression and movement, flow. Feminine is love and light. It is another aspect of life.  Masculine is simply the guiding consciousness, the deep awareness that brings direction to the flow of the waters, the waters being the feminine. Neither is good nor bad, both are required, both are two sides of the same coin and to assume that one is better than the other is simply missing the point.They are balance and they are inherently needed for each of the other and neither can exist without the other. Just as energy cannot be created nor destroyed feminine cannot exist without the masculine and vice versa.

The thought that one can be of balanced and whole in both masculine and feminine energies within one’s self all of the time and have a sublime life experience is unfortunately a common misconception. If you are to imagine to magnets of opposite polarities at a distance pulling towards each other, that is how the feminine and masculine dynamic works: we need these opposing forces. Yet as such, it is that we are taught to believe to be whole, in the same we were taught to be following growing consumerism as bliss and yes we do get a sense of strange surreal fulfillment but our hearts do not sing as bliss in those moments.

This is not to say that we are entirely of one side of the other, everyone is a mix of both polarities. Being aware of which one you are in each moment is key, and allowing yourself to play in them, moving about to one side or the other feeling which one causes you the most sense of peace and bliss. As well finding in intimate relationships where your heart truly wants to be on the masculine side or the feminine side. This will help to keep the magnetism in the relationship. Be aware that masculine and feminine are not associated with gender at all. This is also a misconception.

Any being can be feminine, it is the energies of radiance, beauty, grace, love and light. A feminine person gets moved by stories of love, love triumphing over evil, or un-love. The fairy tale that twists and turns as two star crossed lovers go through every toil to be by each-other’s side. The feminine is brought alive by movement, by music, by life and variety.  Put on some really good music and a person with a feminine core will be unable to stop themselves from dancing. Or decadent desserts and delicious food. All of these things call to the feminine and bring it a sense of life and connection to the divine. Bring a feminine being a truly delicious concoction and allow them to feel into it with all of their being as they eat it. They will move and writhe and moan with the pure bliss of eating such a creation.

To a feminine being wearing a different set of shoes can mean the difference in feeling like a divine spark of radiant light, or another obligated dreary day. Clothing texture and shade call out, allowing different emotions and feelings to be expressed just through what is being worn. A feminine being can also feel all of this from others. They can feel those whom are having a bad day, their heart moves and their wisdom comes though in knowing just how to move and speak to soothe and cause the heart opening of those they feel. This is the gift of the feminine.

To be open as love, the divine love that they truly are in their deep core, and offer this gift to the world, and being this open being of love in service to others to bring them deeper into their open into true bliss. This can be a movement, a gesture, a kind word. Sometimes not even a single thing needs to be done beyond a smile and this opens someone into the feeling of the divine love that the feminine bring brings.

To practice being open as this love is a constant thing. Breathe as if your perfect lover were at your side in all moments. Move as though you were divine love moving to open the hearts of all those whom exist in the world. Practice breathing in and out love, sending it out with your eyes and heart. Moving as your soul is compelled feeling into those around you as to what motions will allow them to feel the divine in this very moment. To the feminine the best meditation is done with movement. It connects them to the divine, their bodies, and the love that they are. Dance with the intention to connect and be the divine love that courses through your every fiber of your being as a gift to all.

Written by Faeri Sierra Choquette

You can find more information about Faeri at her Facebook Page Faery Essences. Currently she is an artist, a dancer, a teacher of feminine meditation, and does Akashic Record consultations.

7 Reasons to Get a Card Reading

It can seem like a flaky thing to get a card reading to some. Truly, it is not as flaky as it seems. Card readings can be sources of great clarity and insight for a person if the connection between the reader and readee is right.

Readings can look into any area of your life. They are not just limited to relationships, or the spiritual, or your health. They can look at your finances, your career, your gifts. Literally, anything can be read with a confident reader.

You can be as vague as you want “Tell me whatever the cards say!” or “ I’m not sure what I want to know.” That type of intent for the reading will allow you to receive the information or guidance that serves you most at that particular time.

When you are more specific, say, you have a topic, but there is a lot you want to know about it, or there are several paths you can choose from it is easy to create a spread that looks into each option. What will each option bring into your life? Example: ‘I can go steady with Joe or Tom or I can just move to Hawaii and see how that goes.’ Or “ I’m not sure if I want to travel or if I want to stay here and get a job for the summer.”

Then you can be specific. So specific there is no question of what you want to know. Example: ‘I want to know where my relationship with Todd is going. Will we get married and have kids?’

Here are the reasons I feel that most people come to see me in my work, and what I feel they often get out of it.

Reason 1: To receive confirmation of your intuition.

Card readings are so much more than getting your future told. They often tell you what you already know, what you may have lost sight if because your mind has become busy working out the situation.

Reason 2: To gain insight on your future and your current life path.

This can be invaluable information that can tell you where your easiest, most harmonious and joyful future is. A reading can clarify where you are going, and give you suggestions if you want to go in a different direction.

Reason 3: To gain an outside perspective from someone that has no ties to you or your life.

Sometimes we get so lost in our thoughts, feelings or both that we get focused in a really small part of what is actually going on. When you visit a card reader most often you are meeting a stranger who doesn’t know anything about you and can see the big picture and give you new perspectives.

Reason 4: To receive what you most need to hear at the time to move forward.

Sometimes we get stuck. In life, in our heads, in our emotions and we don’t know what we can do to move forward. A reading can often give you something to chew on, something to think about that may be what gets you moving and out of that rut.

Reason 5: To hear what the universe and your intuition is trying to say to you.

Sometimes we get lost in the loops of our mind, and though we’ve heard what our intuition is saying we can no longer identify what is our intuition, our mind, other people, or whatever. We’ve thought so much about something there is no differentiation between what is our truth or another truth. Card readings often bring forth what you already know, the intuitive stuff that is your truth even though you may not be able to recognize it or put words to until another person does.

Reason 6: To gain further understanding about what is happening in your life.

Sometimes life gives us experiences or we find ourselves in situations that leave us scratching our heads. It can sometimes be helpful to go to a card reader or psychic to gain further understanding about what is going on. Often psychics have a different framework and way of being in the world that includes energy patterns, past lives, karmic ties, soul contracts and other such ideas. Sometimes the insight you will receive will be something like “ah, yes, this was a past karma that was being released” or “You have certain things that need to be learned from this person before this relationship will end” and so on.

Reason 7: And last but not least, for fun! And curiosity.

Who has not wondered about their future? Or what might happen to them? Karma, destiny, are these things true? Readings can be done just to see what a reader might get for you. They can be done just to see what happens. Enjoy it. Ask about all the things you’ve ever wondered about. You might be surprised what comes up.

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Serafina Christine is a creative free spirited cyclist and mystic who has committed to Follow Her Bliss (and figuring out how to do that and get paid). She is the creator of Willows Lavender, where she specializes in readings and gemstone therapy, including gemstone elixirs.

Bloodstone – Truth-teller

We welcome you

To the reign of truth

As time beats by

Bloodstone sits still

More than all ages

Old wisdom hidden

On-lookers disbelief

As they are caught distraught

In falsities, lies, illusions

Some accept this wisdom

To grow and vibrate cleaner

But others resist and attack

Truth-teller does not judge

He simply comes to let

All illusions to fly away

So all we will see

Is our Truth and Light.

Bloodstone is a powerful stone, a crystal ally if you wish. He helps to unveil an illusions you may have, or others in the vicinity of his energy. Because of this he is good to have on you when engaging in conversations you “need answers” from.

This stone is a deep green with red dots. It was said at one time that bloodstone was created during the war of the Gods and from their spilled blood formed this crystal.

This is an excellent crystal to learn and use in times when discernment is needed for any situation. He does not like to be fooled and will bring insight and wisdom to any situation you sit and about while holding him.

Bloodstone works with the heart and root connecting them with the third eye via intuition. When Bloodstone gives insight it is very heart centred and will serve the highest good of all involved, not ego.

Meditating with bloodstone daily will begin the process of integrating or dismantling the ego if you intend it to. It is highly recommended you allow the space and time you need for this process – daily meditations might not be the best for each person as dismantling the ego can bring up a lot at times.

Bloodstone loves to sit close to people in general, so it is best to keep him in a space that has more people around, say in a dish on a coffee table in the living room. He likes to adventure and explore other places so do not be surprised if he transitions to other temporary homes.

Sugilite – The Dreamkeeper

This is a wonderful, beautifully coloured purple gemstone that is silica based. This crystal is more often used by those who are metaphysically inclined, though it makes a beautiful piece of jewellery as well.

Resonating most wit the third eye chakra this is a gemstone that will open up your senses and allow dreams to become vivid if you have them or start them if you don’t.

As with all personal work for best results you want to combine techniques for best results. Use sugilite to kick start your dreaming, and record your dreams daily. Keep the sugilite beneath your head when you sleep. He can also be used to enhance astral projection for some. This crystal will allow certain messages to be received, heard, and kept by the dreamer.

When set in silver this crystal is amplified in its work.

Speaking to the Deva, she tells us that she has often brought visions forth and that there are many times she’s been ignored. The she stops working with the person.

Sugilite is able to draw the crown energy into the third eye removing the blockages or imbalances that may be there. When meditated with it moves stagnant energy in the etheric body where it is near placed. This crystal loves the sunlight, but be careful to him too much sun – he may loose some of his shine. An ideal meditation with sugilite would be to place a piece on the third eye with selenite and rose quartz in each hand. Tigers eye at the fee and lie down outside, on grass. This creates a grounded connection of love. Allow yourself to fall asleep if it comes.

This beautiful crystal is definitely fun to work with so enjoy experimenting!

Question: Why do we incarnate into human beings in the first place?

Q: “If we have the ability to reach a metaphysical existence, why do we incarnate into human beings in the first place? This is connected to why can we light travel in the first place; is that what we’re here to do, or is it an interesting peculiarity of humans?

I’ve heard about needing to clear densities, “repent” for past lives, and other explanations before. What are your thoughts?”

A: My favourite answer to your question is a bit of a story, but it is one that I love and suits my framework quite well:

Everything was created in the Universe by the Universe. The Universe loved all of it, but because the Universe had created it all from itself it was also everything. This meant that the Universe was not able to experience itself because there was no separation from itself. Thus the Universe decided to separate a portion from itself so that it would have the ability to experience all aspects of the Universe. That act created our souls, and all souls. Our souls then began to experience the Universe, and the Universe was able to experience all there was in its creations. Our souls travelled, lived, spoke, felt. We went everywhere and we still do – we are here, we were aliens, we were in hell, and we were in heaven. We experienced alternate realities and dimensions.

Our soul is always craving the wholeness of ‘home’, always trying to get home, often forgetting that we are here to experience, to grow, to love. By accepting and allowing that process we connect more fully to our ‘home’ which is all around us. That is how we reflect our love back to the Universe. That is how we become one with it.

Each one comes into life, into Being, with a specific purpose or intent of what they would to experience in this life, of what we would like to gift to the Universe. At the same time we use our experiences to connect deeper to our own soul and to allow our soul to come out more beautifully and to facilitate that in others. By connecting to our Soul we are the Universe, we are “enlightened”, we are “ascending”, we are One. It’s a beautiful circle of perfection.Perhaps that is why we are always trying so hard to connect – our soul birth was an act of separation and therefore we feel it so deeply as a whole?

What do you think?

Rhodonite – Love Actualization, Love in Action

Oh! The beauty of this crystal!

The deep pink of the heart

The crevices of black desire

The love that flows so simply

Ability to love made manifest

This is the stone for you

It is the stone for all

For who wouldn’t like to serve

By living their souls truth, talents?

One of our favourite crystals to work with!

Rhodonite is an amazing crystal to work with. As you carry it with you it begins to unveil to you what your loves to do. These are the things we do that we have no idea how valued they are. They are the things we’ve never done but love instantly once we do them. They are the things that bring us so much joy there is no where else we would rather be.

This stone can do something special: It can not only help you recognize all of the above and help reveal your passions, but it can also help you connect together in a meaningful and valuable way multiple passions. It shows you  a coherent and workable way that you can live doing all that you love and still be generous.

Rhodonite strives to be generous and altruistic  By living and using your talents you become such a gift for the world. And it reminds you that unexpected and unconditional generosity is the greatest gift you can give. By unconditional we don’t mean that you give and give and give, for you must give only as much as you can without creating an imbalance and true lack in your life. by unconditional we refer to the simple act of forgotten or lost of giving without any expectations or strange ideas. A gift from the heart. This can inspire and spark so much in the receiver!

This is the stone that teaches you and shows you how your love, your passions, and your bright spark of life can be such a blessing and a catalyst that inspires those around you to become their bright sparks too.

The world is ready for all of humanity to live by their souls. So lets help each other discover and live their souls. Lets help each other create  world where that is possible. Let us create a heart-centred world.

Let rhodonite help you first, and your light. Your heart will lead the way to this New World of Hope. Just always remember the Butterfly Effect – the smallest actions have a larger effect that you cannot even imagine. You have no true idea of the scope of change your actions create in the world around you. So when it seems like you are not enough hold on to Rhodonite and Rhodocroscite together. Let their love fill you with self-love and understanding.

How do Psychics Tell the Future?

Have you ever wondered how it is possible for psychics to tell the future? Have you ever wondered how it works? How is it that a person can tell the future and it sometimes actually come true? What about all those people who claim to tell the future and it doesn’t come true?

When a client asks about the future in a reading this is what happens for me:

I feel all the various probabilities that are in existence for question. It’s very fast, and doesn’t take long because I only feel into the strongest possibilities. Those are the only ones that the client and I truly care about. It is the strongest possibility that I relate to the client. If there are several that are highly probable I tell the client all of them including with what will make each possibility happen.

Because the world we live in is energy, it is constantly shifting. The future is a finicky thing. If I knock over the salt today, maybe that’s changed everything and I simply am not aware of it.

Here’s a clip of Griffin from Men in Black 3, a character I love. He’s an awesome example of what it’s like to be a super strong conscious and aware psychic all the time. He’s always standing right on the edge of doing something because he can see all the probabilities but he doesn’t know how to act or what to do until the millisecond before the future comes true because its only then that he knows exactly which one is true.

Here’s a clip of him:

As Heraclitus infamously said: “Change is the only constant in life.”

I can only tell you possibilities, albeit the strongest possibilities.

Lazulite – The Prince of Stones

Lazulite is an amazing and beautiful blue stone without the glamour of Lapis Lazuli. It has more of a matte look to it. This little known and desired stone by the general populace is truly powerful.

We call this stone the Prince of Stones because it relates so well to how it works. Masculine in feeling it is a tad rebellious  This stone has a mind of its own in a positive way. If you are unclear in anything – boundaries, ideas, thoughts, beliefs, like any rebellious teenager he will test those so that you can become clear, as clear as ice on all of these.

It is with a feeling of royalty one carries this stone. Lazulite helps all people step more into their personal power. Part of stepping into personal power is being very clear on what you want and what you don’t want, and then being able to express that in a very clear way. The Prince of Stones does this beautifully in its work with the throat chakra. By helping heaven and earth come together for you in your world he grounds your voice with precision and consciousness. He tests and stretches your boundaries and all that you stand for, helping you to release and see the dis-service you do for yourself by keeping anything false around or in your life.

Lazulite has the ability to help release all the false shells giving rise to the true self – that is essentially what the metaphor of Lazurus’s death and coming back to life is about. His false selves have died and his true self comes forth.

Lazulite is a stone that has not been overly sought after for much of humanity’s time on Earth. Its value is not seen by all even though it is a strong stone. It can be slow working, but as sensitivities increase it will ‘work faster’. Its a calm, grounding, and often chaotic at first. All lazulite wants to do is help you love your true self. Often working with it will draw more stones to be used in conjunction with lazulite.

This stone has many friends and will often help the user make new and needed friends. it is a stone that easily creates connections with others on all levels and helps bring understanding to social norms and how to interact with others.

Lazulite is a special stone of love, connections, grounding, clarity, the True Self, the throat chakra. It reminds us of how truly beautiful we are. The Prince of Stones can be tough, yet so soft, just like the Prince many women dream of.

New Years Readings

I thought it was appropriate that with this New Year coming up in a few days to let you know about two special readings that I do. Both of them were created around this time ironically enough!

The first I call the Circle Year Reading. This reading looks at your next year month by month. It brings to light the various themes that will occur month by month, quarterly as well as patterns that can occur in a year. Animal guides and other energies – like the Ascended Masters or Angels – are touched upon with the how and why. Major events and shifts are noted in the month they occur, as well as important meetings and decisions. This card reading is very detailed and layered. It always begins with the twelve months, and builds out from there.

It is highly recommended that you take notes or bring a recording device.

An example of what a spread might look like.

The Twin Flame reading brings into awareness the process that you are undergoing to prepare to meet your twin flame, and the length of time. Instructions on how to speed the process, what to expect in that process and the best way to allow the process to unfold often occur. There are often time frames given for each part of the process, suggestions to help the process flow smoothly, and shifts or things to expect.

It is highly recommended that you take notes or bring a recording device.

A sample of what the Twin Flame Reading looks like.

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If you have any questions or would like to book a reading for this new year let me know!

Sunstone – The Lovers Heart (Solstice Stone)

This stone is one of masculine light. It shows and helps develop the strength and ability to let ones light shine brightly without worrying about others. This stone feels almost harsh when placed beside it’s oft thought of counterpart moonstone. And indeed they are partners in a lot of ways; however, it is not recommended that these stones are worked with together until one is fairly aware and knowledgeable in the masculine and feminine energies. Then we say to experience a full balance meditate with sunstone in the left hand and moonstone in the right hand. A powerful meditation.

This is a stone of inner strength and balance. As the feminine likes a flow this stone likes to help the masculine stay strong. For the user this stone will allow creativity, ideas, and ingenuity flow without losing direction, focus or interval guidance.

We call this stone the lovers’ heart because it represents it so perfectly in how this stone helps humanity in general. A lover’s heart is soft, forgiving, and full of excitement and acceptance. It fills us with a sense of peace, openness and adventure. A lover’s heart is also very strong, very bright, and knows what it wants. It may experience fears, but courage comes almost too easily to the lovers’ heart as does forgiveness it seems in many cases. All of these attributes sunstone helps to surface because those in love have always done great things. Those in love have bright fires that come alive. With or without a lover these states of being can come forth and sunstone will always help with that.

Sunstone also helps one know the timing of when to end begin something. This stone doesn’t like to hang out past the expiry date, nor does it like to begin too early. It likes, and will help all who work with him, to work in time with all the energies that surround you with a confident grace of inner knowing.

Keywords: Sunstone, masculine, moonstone, meditation, lover’s hearts, heart, energy, endings, beginnings, leadership, condfidence.

Chakra: Solar Plexus

Astrological Sign: Leo

This is a wonderful stone that brings out your light. With its red-yellow phosphorescent color it resembles labordorite and moonstone, but instead of looking inside, it promotes you to shine your light – bring what’s inside of you into the world.

This is a stone commonly associated with leadership as this stone values freedom, empowerment, and individuality. Sunstone harmonizes the world, and helps create a sense of worthiness, increasing self-esteem and self-confidence along the way. It offers protection and draws wealth while bringing optimism in all aspects to the user.

Sunstone helps one to become emotionally capable to take care of oneself instead of depending on others, and will help one to learn to nurture both others and oneself. It empowers the user by removing co-dependency and the tendency to procrastinate.

It is believed to powerfully bring abundance, good fortune, prosperity and protection to the user. Sunstone is believed to reinvigorate one’s health and strength. It’s commonly used now a-days to alleviate depression, seasonal affective disorder, anxiety and stress. Sunstone energizes and empowers one’s spirit, and brightens the soul.

Sunstone is often used in grids to help relieve aches, pain, cartilage problems, rheumatism, cramps, fevers, and other similar conditions.

Sunstone is an excellent stone to use to banish fears, nightmares, phobias, inhibitions and feelings of unworthiness. It has also been used to remove any unwanted or lingering energies.

Sunstone is associated with the Sun God Helios in Ancient Greece, and used to be placed on drinking vessels in order to prevent poisoning. It is the stone of Ra, the Egyptian God of the Sun.

Sunstone has been used in the past by the Vikings to actually navigate by the position of the sun. True sunstone refracts light, which makes it possible to locate the sun in fog, cloudy days and storms. Sunstone has also been said to glow when contact is made with Spirit Guides, commonly being placed in the center of the medicine wheel by Native American Medicine Men.

This particular stone has been oft used in solstice celebrations and gatherings. I feel, this is not fact, simply what I feel from my channelling and research that if you celebrate Solstice it would be highly beneficial for you to place a piece of sunstone on your alter, and at some point take time to connect with the stone by sitting with it in meditation on the Solstice. All pieces of true sunstone (not aventurine or golden sunstone) contain within them a connection to the part of human consciousness that has been celebrating Solstice’s past, present and future. Meditation during the Solstice will automatically draw forth all of this knowledge, and it will be shared when used in ritual, bringing to the meditator exactly what they need to receive from the reserves of old wisdom.

Try meditating with Sunstone and let me know what happens.

Key Sources

http://www.controverscial.com/Sunstone.htm

http://www.crystalvaults.com/pages/crystal_encyclopedia/sunstone.php